I told myself “I want it all.” 

And at that time, “all” was a very short, yet complicated list.  A three-letter word that held within a vast collection of misunderstandings, errors and contradictions.

I believed that “all” started with success which had a clear formula: Work harder. Achieve more. Prove yourself. Earn your place.

I chased it relentlessly – the next title, the next milestone, the next validation of my worth. Productivity was my middle name. Goals were my compass. I proudly wore the “getting things – all things – done” suit. And for a while, it felt like I was winning.

But then I started noticing a pattern – not just in my life, but in the lives of the high achievers I worked with. The ones who had “made it,” yet were still searching. The ones who had everything, yet felt like something was missing. The ones who were drowning in a life that looked good on the outside but felt strangely lost within.

It made me wonder: What if we’ve all bought the wrong definition of ‘having it all’? 

The more I payed attention, the more I realized that what we want is what we don’t have. 

Are we that greedy? I asked. And why? 

I took the path that had more questions than answers. It kept me awake at night. Trapped between the undefined “ I want it all” and a million questions. Pulled between confusions. Between desires and the insecurities. Between dreams and an instinct to investigate. 

I noticed that there are two ways people understand the “have it all”:

Some are focused on titles, power, achievements that make the headlines,  and money that allows for a lavished life.

Others add to the list: a love that makes people wonder, a body made for the magazine covers, endless freedom and vitality.

And the list became longer and longer. And that summit, further and further. 

I tried to come up with a plan that had a sequence to follow. And I saw one thing that, in the end, opened a door I didn’t even imagined existed: we all start with at least some sort of fame and especially money at the top of our “ have it all”. The question is why? Why do we perceive that money and fame would lead to everything else we desire? 

We associate money with access, stability and freedom. And fame is a reliable validation of self-worth. 

But then there are the people who are as far as they could be from money and fame and they are happier, more peaceful, secure and connected than most who “have it all”. 

What if the real 1% isn’t just about external display of power, but about internal freedom? It was the question that opened the door.

The 1% Life: A Different Definition of ‘Having It All’

We’ve already established that most people define success by what they collect – money, status, accolades, influence. But real wealth isn’t about any of these. It’s about experiencing. And this changes everything.

Having it all means living in congruence – where your work, relationships, and daily life actually feel good to you, not just impressive to others. Where your actions reflect your highest values.

Having it all means pursuing mastery – not for validation, but because you love your craft, your passion, your expression.

Having it all means inner peace – healing from the weight of the past, releasing the anxiety for the future, and stepping fully into the present moment with a heart that know more love than fear.

Having it all means no longer fighting for your own life – but actually living it.

We spend so much time trying to get “THERE” that we forget to be HERE. Ironically, because life only happens here – the part we are in a rush to avoid.

And that creates a new nuance of the same question: What if Living the 1% Life isn’t about grinding to get more – but about finally allowing yourself to enjoy what you already have?

The Shift: From Chasing to Receiving

The world glorifies the chase. The hustle. The sacrifice. The constant need to push forward.

But there is an interesting paradox: the harder you chase fulfillment, the further it seems to run.

Why? Because for most of us, success isn’t just about the goals we set – it’s about what we imagine those goals will give us. We use success as a currency to buy what we’ve always longed for.

If I’m successful, I’ll finally feel seen.

If I achieve enough, I’ll finally belong.

If I make money, I’ll be worthy of love, I can buy any “feeling” I want to feel.

If I prove myself, I won’t have to fight for acceptance anymore.

We believe that once we reach a certain level, everything we’ve struggled with will just dissolve on its own. That the loneliness will fade. That the fear of rejection will disappear. That love, belonging, and peace will come effortlessly.

But here’s the raw truth I’ve discovered: no amount of external success can heal an internal wound.

If you haven’t found love yet – or if you keep falling for people who can’t meet you where you are – more money or another title isn’t the answer.

If you still feel like you’re too much or not enough – more followers, more awards, or more milestones won’t make that feeling go away.

The answers you’ve been looking for aren’t in the chase or the arrival- they are in exploring the beliefs that keep you stuck in the pattern.

Why wouldn’t you deserve love that feels effortless?
Why wouldn’t you belong exactly as you are?
Why wouldn’t success and peace coexist in your life?

We chase because we think we have to earn what was meant to be freely received. But the moment we stop proving, we start allowing.

This shift isn’t about giving up ambition – it’s about no longer needing it to validate your worth. It’s about understanding that the things you long for – love, belonging, acceptance – don’t come from having more.

True Freedom: The Power of Needing Less

Most people seek success because they believe it will bring them freedom.

Freedom to do what they want. To be who they want. To finally feel enough.

But real freedom isn’t found in an external milestone – it’s found in how you relate to life itself.

Freedom isn’t just financial – it’s emotional. The ability to handle challenges without losing yourself. The ability to sit in uncertainty without fear. The ability to trust yourself, no matter what.

Freedom isn’t just doing what you want – it’s loving what you do. Not because it’s easy, but because it’s meaningful.

Freedom isn’t about having more – it’s about needing less. Less external validation. Less control. Less attachment to things.

When you stop needing success to feel whole, you realize you were whole all along.

Living the 1% Life: What It Looks Like

Waking up with a peaceful mind – not anxious, not dreading the day, but open to it.
Doing work that energizes you – not just for money or status, but because it lights you up.
Loving deeply – not from fear, attachment, or insecurity, but from fullness.
Knowing when to push forward and when to surrender – without panic, without forcing.
Moving through life with confidence – not because you control everything, but because you trust the journey.

It isn’t about luck, privilege, or external circumstances – it’s a deliberate choice. It’s about mastering the internal before chasing the external.

Guard Your Mind: Your thoughts shape your reality. Explore your beliefs and their origins and challenge your assumptions. Ask yourself questions: Why do I even believe this to be true? What if I didn’t believe this? Identify fear, doubts, hesitations and the lack of congruence between what you say you want and what you believe it’s possible.

Know Your Priorities. Know your Values: Not everything deserves your energy. The 1% Life requires discernment – knowing what matters most and letting go of the rest.

Align with Purpose: Work that energizes you isn’t found – it’s created. Discover what fuels you and build a life around it. A question that had a significant impact on me: What would I do every day with love and passion even if I never got payed for my work?

Redefine The 1% Life on Your Terms The quickest way to live an unfulfilling life is to chase someone else’s definition of success. The 1% Life means defining success in a way that actually matters to you.

What does “enough” look like? If you never define it, you’ll always feel like you’re behind. Most people are running races they didn’t even sign up for. Be brutally honest about what you actually want and why.

Success should feel like home – not like a race you can never stop running.
Peace isn’t a reward at the end – it’s the foundation you build from.
The life you want isn’t something you chase – it’s something you step into when you have the courage to explore your beliefs, to challenge your assumption and to heal your mind and heart.

You Can Have It All – And Enjoy It All

There’s a version of success that doesn’t burn you out.
A version that doesn’t require sacrificing your peace, your relationships, or yourself.

It’s time to stop settling for success that only looks good on the outside.
It’s time to build a life that feels as good as it looks.

That’s Living the 1% Life.

Not just having it all – but deeply, fully, freely enjoying what is.

Shared with Love,
Gabriela

I don’t pretend I KNOW. I write from my experience and from my heart hoping that what I have to share will be the support someone needs on their journey. I reserve the right to be wrong and change my mind as I grow in my own understanding.

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